Been really bored and restless lately...

Half of me is itching to end work asap, and the other half...

...well

Yeah it's itching to end work too!

It's like the start of Part 2 Post-Graduation Pre-National Service holiday


And I SINCERELY apologise if you (HAVE EVER) thought that i've been abit too active on social media.

Posting stuff on Facebook and Twitter and all...

Well I dun think I reached the point where I post every single minute or hour? But I guess it might still be irritating to some angsty individuals that wants a cleaaaan news feed. (I think...does it?)

I've had friends who sulk or got their egos stung because people actually told them they are too noisy. (Simple, dun sync your twitter with facebook. Lol)

It's really strange...this thing about social media...

It's there for you to share your day with your friends, yet you might worry some dude out there's going like "Hur hur hur I don't think that's interesting at all, can you stop posting" Because HONESTLY... (I do that sometimes)

Somehow a part of me just wants to talk to my friends or acquaintances out there? I mean it's already so hard to randomly approach some old friend without seeming like a stalker or weirdo.

Btw I have 895 friends and SOME people actually ask me if I DO know all of them.

Of course not!

BUT!

I did a random estimate one day and I can quite confidently say I know at least 800 of these people! (leaving ~95 to be people who added me or people I added cos they're interesting personalities)

Honestly! Just point to anyone and I can tell you where I met him/her, how I met him/her, and what we have talked about before.! I guess i've taken part in many CCAs and worked at many events before so I got to know quite alot of awesome people.

And...I just realised that this social circle consists of quite alot of people I have stopped talking to.

It's quite sad actually...

You know, they're the kind of friends that you used to exchange smses with quite often, talk on msn quite often in the past..

And now...its like you guys don't know each other anymore? When you meet on the streets you'd probably go like "Hey long time no see! How are you? What are you doing now?"

But probably a year or two ago you'd be like "Hey (insert random inside-joke nickname) what you doing here? Remember to (insert random inside-joke taunt) ah!"

Isn't it sad?

And theres this really irritating unspoken rule that it's technically quite weird if you randomly start chatting with them, trying to be close again

I mean things will go through your mind, like...

"Shit what are they doing now ah? Are they busy?"
"10 minutes passed and they havent replied. They think its weird is it?"
"Why are the intervals between replies so long? They're not keen to be talking to me is it?"
"Ok it's probably better if I end the convo earlier before she thinks i'm hitting on her" (If it's a girl)

...But the reason might simply be because you caught them at a wrong timing

...or like you feared...

It's really too awkward!

I mean why?

Sure, you've always been encouraged to do it cos it's kinda like networking, everyone will obviously go like "Weird? No i think it's perfectly fine if an old friend randomly starts talking to me! I'll definitely wanna talk to them!"

But like I said, for some conservative people (especially in Singapore) it's quite an 'unspoken' thing that, unless the situation permits (met on the street, have a really irritating new mutual friend, found out you're both attending a same event) it's generally gonna be weird if you randomly start a convo with an old friend.

I guess well, that's where social media comes in?

It makes it seem like, okay, you're just randomly addressing or telling everyone on your contact list about something you've been doing lately or that you found interesting, every post is a new potential topic for you and one of your..erm..895 friends to relate to.

Commenting is TOTALLY not weird, and liking is TOTALLY not weird as well. Because social media has made it that way.

It's fine to be able to identify with someone's post. And hey whaddayaknow! That's an old friend that commented! And tadahh it's totally not awkward to reply as well! You're finally talking!

How many times have you seen people go "Hey man how are you?" on their own statuses?

So...!

When someone is active on Social Media, it doesn't mean he/she's attention-seeking or irritating (No one has told me that actually)

Of course there are the really irritating ones that post crude remarks of people, over zealous evangelists and those i-hate-the-government posts.

It's a place for you to connect with your friends despite not seeing them everyday.

A place it's NOT WEIRD/AWKWARD to talk to someone you lost touch with somewhere along the way. (If you find the chat and msn button rather intruding)

After the first few exchanges, if you don't wanna flood the comment box, move it to the chat system. It's that unawkward!



Of course, 'social media trolls' are not welcome anywhere. Damn i'm going to have to dedicate an entire blog post on that topic soon.