By my age you've probably already been through 3 stages of education, and been through several work experiences.

At every stage you meet different groups of people.

These people seldom and rarely overlap to another stages' and probably don't see you alot after you leave

And for each and every one of these groups you are remembered differently, according to their memory of you then.

A stereotype, no matter how negative it is (ESPECIALLY, if its negative) STICKS to you.

Likka annoying leech.

Funny thing is...

...You're not the one that remembers them.




I'd like to say that my personality has changed throughout the years (hopefully for the better)

And im quite sure to different groups of people I had different first impressions and different eventual impressions.

I guess my most disturbing stereotype was in secondary school.

Having entered a prestigious SAP school I eventually realised I wasn't exactly the brightest of my batch even though I was doing reasonably well (Everyone just did better). Especially when I flung my prelims I think I kinda gave the impression im not the studious type.

Together with my hideous appearance, the dumb actions I tend to do (Like kicking soccer balls in a small room of breakable stuff) and everyone agreeing that I look and AM blur, I feel...that I was given the stereotype that I'm quite slow and prone to make mistakes. Especially to my batch people the same age as me.

I dont know. Everytime when i'm out with them, I still get the feeling they still use me as the butt of jokes.

So quick with concluding that i'm wrong.

So quick in doubting and questioning a statement I made

So quick in firing out the dreaded "You haven't changed much have you?" when meeting people after a long time..

Each and every time I am genuinely taken aback and dumbfounded by their words...because after so long, I am no longer conditioned to that reaction.

It's so hard to shake out of your stereotype that it really hurts your pride at times. Like hey my current friends don't see me the same way.




I am afraid of stereotypes. I admit it. And unfortunately, I fall into one quickly.

I fear being tagged with a label that you have to live with for a long time.

I avoid meeting people I've left a good impression with often to prevent tarnishing it.

I hate being confronted by this stereotype again and again, and honestly it gets frustrating at times, no matter who the other party is.

It's like being dunked again and again into a pool of water.

No one likes it.